Monday, June 25, 2007

My sister's remarks at dad's memorial service

Here is the text of my sister's remarks at Dad's memorial service. We wrote our thoughts about dad separately without conferring at all. I found them to be amazingly similar.

"Most of us learn the difference between right and wrong at an early age and then spend the rest of our lives striving, with various degrees of success, to do right rather than wrong, to choose to be good rather than bad, to behave morally rather than immorally. But there are a few among us who do the right and moral thing because they are intrinsically good people. For these few, living a good and moral life isn't a question of choice and involves no internal struggle. These rare people are just good. my dad was one of these people.

I believe he embodied that which Immanuel Kant characterized as "a good will" unconscious and inherent intent to live according to a moral command. And i believe that my dad's character and behavior were informed by this intrinsic good will. He was unfailingly kind anad generous, he was completely honorable, and he exhibited and unlimited capacity for love.

My father led a life both enviable and admirable, and his legacy lives on in the two fine men who are my brothers. They are a testament to the example he set as a husband, a father, and a man. He loved them, and me, with all of his great big heart and was enormously proud of them.

Since my dad died, many of you have asked if there is anything you could do for me and my family and I couldn't think of anything. But now I have. Admittedly it is corny and sentimental, but I don't care and I'm going to ask you all to do it anyway. here it is; today, tomorrow, next week, or next year, be nice to someone or tell someone you love that you love him. Do this in memory of my father, a good, kind, and loving man ...simply the best man I've ever known."

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